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Thinking and walking to class
January 22, 2008
It’s my fourth year of college, and even though I’m probably not graduating for another year, it’s absurd to think that I once expected to be engaged by the time I was a senior.
But maybe, given that I had met the right person, things would have worked out that way, and I wouldn’t find it so strange.
No, it would still be strange. For me, at least. Although I wouldn’t mind that sort of lifestyle, I can’t let myself get married just because it’s the next step.
Unless it really is the next step.
Bangs. I’m definitely getting bangs.
Edit: Got the bangs.
January 22nd, 2008 at 11:59 am
There you go! Bangs are the answer to everything. Nice photos!
January 22nd, 2008 at 12:07 pm
I thought the same thing when I was starting school just because that seemed the next logical step. graduate, married, house in the burbs with a white picket fence and a pet dog named Bucco 2.
Reality is that I waited until I was 29 to get married and had one helluva tim in my 20’s doing whatever I wanted. There really is a truth to the “you just KNOW when the time is right” saying. My wife and I met my soph. year in college and never thought then that we’d get hitched . Sometimes you end up marrying a person you meet at random or sometimes you really do marry your best friend.
January 22nd, 2008 at 12:10 pm
spoon - That was extremely comforting.
January 22nd, 2008 at 1:02 pm
HAHA! That’s awesome.
And is that your college? It’s gorgeous! I love the German features.
January 22nd, 2008 at 1:32 pm
SO MANY of my classmates (I graduate in 2007) got married immediately after graduation. Maybe 15 of them. It makes me sick.
I was one of those 15.
I don’t think you should jump into anything until you are sure you are ready. I knew I was. I doubt some of the others though!
January 22nd, 2008 at 2:38 pm
Bangs ARE the next step!
(I thought I’d be married with kids by 23. OH, how my story has changed.)
January 22nd, 2008 at 3:10 pm
It terrifies me how many people I graduated high school with are now married and babied. Almost all my good buds from my high school days are. I almost feel like I’m immature because I love going to school and cannot imagine myself with a child. I don’t think I could handle being a stay at home mom.
January 22nd, 2008 at 4:19 pm
I like your walk :)
January 22nd, 2008 at 5:16 pm
I love the term “babied”!
January 22nd, 2008 at 6:01 pm
bangs. those are definitely the next step. my cousin took that route. married, kids. she has not said it, but as her divorce looms i can without a doubt tell she regrets taking the traditional route. the most important thing i have learned is that the traditional route is not the right route. if never getting married makes you happy, then do it. if having a baby but not having a husband is what you want, then do that. so much emphasis is put on the right route. but with everyone getting divorced, how right is it? one of my closest friends is almost forty, never married and has no kids. she is the happiest clam i know.
i say, do what you want, want what you do, love what you do.
January 22nd, 2008 at 7:28 pm
Bangs are always the answer, followed by the growing out of said bangs. I just had mine cut back in during my annual hair cut.
Speaking as someone who did get engaged right after graduating from college, it is pretty weird. Even though I knew since my second year in college that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with this guy, it is still pretty crazy. I’m a little nervous and I know that certain possibilites will be closed off to me when we get married, but at the same time a whole new set of possibilities will open up. No, I’m probably not going to go live in another country, but, with the economic support of another person, my search for the right career is totally on!
January 22nd, 2008 at 7:59 pm
Bangs are always good.
January 22nd, 2008 at 8:28 pm
I really dig this post. it made me smile.
And! I am a huge advocate for bangs. I hope you love them as much as I do. If you want to start a fan group or something, I am the person to come to.
January 22nd, 2008 at 8:58 pm
This has been some of the greatest advice ever. Thank you all.
Miriam - Yes! Thank you!
Rachel - 23 was always “the age” for me too.
Frank - I’m also a fan.
ChristyLouWho - I went out and got them, and they’ve made me high on life.
January 23rd, 2008 at 12:07 am
Do I ever remember having these conversations with myself on the way to or from class. Also, I totally thought that I’d be engaged after college or the year after and alas, here I am. Bangs on the other hand, totally have some of those!
January 23rd, 2008 at 12:23 am
Well, I got engaged right after I graduated from college…and called it off 1 month before the wedding…it was the best thing I did! LOL
You look great with the bangs!
January 23rd, 2008 at 12:41 am
Bangs = hot. Love it.
I am engaged as a senior… but it TOTALLY wasn’t in my plans. I wanted to go teach English in a foreign country… and now I am planning a wedding in Texas. *shrugs*
This post did make me smile. I do not envy the snow however. :)
January 23rd, 2008 at 12:51 am
You look beautiful. :)
January 23rd, 2008 at 2:02 am
Haha, odd. I always hoped I’d get married at 23, if only because it’s my favorite number. However, the closer I get to that age mark, the more obviously apparently it becomes that that is. not. happening.
Enjoy the single life while you still have it - if anything, I once read somewhere that marriages have a higher success rate if the two people involved are in their late 20s. So rock it when you can, and worry about marriage and serious relationships (easier said than done) when you edge closer to the spinster years. :)
BTW - Love the bangs!
January 23rd, 2008 at 7:24 am
Bangs indeed. I didn’t even know what bangs were until I started reading blogs. We call it a fringe here!
I enjoyed your walk. I do all my thinking as I walk or run. It is good to go through things and re-evaluate.
Living life is a bit like shopping, I think. Best not to have too fixed idea of what you want, where you might find it or when, because it stops you noticing everything else around. Like when if you decide you want a short black skirt - you spend ages searching for that and don’t notice all the long ones or short red ones that would perhaps be better.
I did get married at 22. But in retrospect I did it for the wrong reasons. If I had my time again, I would not have done so, not because it didn’t last, just because it wasn’t actually the right thing for me to have done.
Just go with the flow, Rachel. And try out ‘fringe’ - it sounds so much nicer than ‘bangs’.
x
January 23rd, 2008 at 7:50 am
Your pictures make me want to go back to college!
January 23rd, 2008 at 10:26 am
Your town is beautiful!
“I can’t let myself get married just because it’s the next step.” Well said, I say.
January 23rd, 2008 at 12:23 pm
Engaged? When you’re still in college? Yeeeikes.
I’ll be whimpering in my cubicle for the remainder of the day just thinking about that.
January 23rd, 2008 at 3:39 pm
My goals were never that high, but I assumed that I would at least have a boyfriend by the time I graduated college. True, I do have a few more months, but honestly, I am too busy/lazy to deal with another person right now.
At the very least I’ll have to clean my apartment, and that’s just too much effort for me. :)
K.
January 23rd, 2008 at 4:48 pm
Totally unrelated to this post . . .
Congrats you FINALIST! I would like to say I had a hand in your success, but I was just one of many “specially selected” peeps that gave you a vote. CONGRATS! CONGRATS! CONGRATS!
(Please tell me you’ve checked the Bloggies site. Otherwise, I just sound like an idiot. Not that I’m not, because I am.)
January 23rd, 2008 at 7:27 pm
Beautiful pics! Wow!
January 23rd, 2008 at 9:46 pm
Lol, it’s funny when you’re younger you think that the age of 21 is so old, and by that time you’d meet your soul mate and have the perfect job. By 22 you’d get married, and by 25ish you’d start popping out babies. LOL, well at least that’s what I thought! Now that I’m actually 21, marriage doesn’t seem like it’s for me, and babies … wow babies… that’s like a million light years away for me.
January 23rd, 2008 at 9:47 pm
Ooo, P.S. Love the pictures.
P.P.S. I LOVE the bangs. Sexy!
January 23rd, 2008 at 9:52 pm
first of all: do you go to school at a castle?
second of all: I think the next phase in my life is finding someone I actually like, who likes me back.
…this has not worked out in a long, long time.
January 24th, 2008 at 12:48 am
YOU, miss, are up for a bloggie! Congrats!
January 24th, 2008 at 3:20 am
Beautiful pictures! Everything looks so peaceful.
January 24th, 2008 at 6:02 am
oh how i love those photos!
And bangs. Go the bangs.
January 24th, 2008 at 8:15 am
You’re a finalist for Bloggie BKS! I got excited for you when I saw it. Congratulations!
January 24th, 2008 at 9:43 am
Love the bangs and I voted for you because you are a finalist!!! Congrats!
Honestly I did not think I would get married until my thirties but on a whim after grad school, I went to a party and met my future husband. We married the month before my 27th birthday. Everyone does it differently and you have to decide what is right for you.
And your campus is beautiful!
January 24th, 2008 at 3:08 pm
Cute bangs!
January 25th, 2008 at 12:09 am
The bangs are hot,
And I thought I’d do everything at a younger age than I did/will. That’s just what 18 year olds do… put too many damn expectations on us 20-somethings!
January 25th, 2008 at 8:32 am
I’m the opposite. I thought I’d be one of those women who gets married in their mid thirties, and the biggest struggle in my life would be having a baby before my biological clock stopped ticking…
And this wasn’t because I was unlucky with relationships, I tend to get what I want in that department, but rather because the idea of marriage was so incomprehensible- something that I wouldn’t be doing until I was an “adult” and being an “adult” seemed lightyears away. It still does, really.
But now I find myself with a boyfriend, and for the first time I could actually see myself marrying him and being happy. It’s an odd feeling, and I’m only 22. On the one hand, I enjoy fantasizing about a future together, but on the other, it freaks me out that I may have met “the one” this early!
February 1st, 2008 at 11:46 am
I love your site and the photos are wonderful. I voted for you too.
The best advice my mother ever gave me is that “your 20s are for you”. So I’m passing it on. . .