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Those days are gone
June 2, 2008
Former memories and moments of my life that, today, rarely ring true:
“I’m parked outside. I left the car running. Don’t worry, no rush.”
“Those low-rise jeans would look great on you!”
“What are you doing this summer?” “Family vacation.”
“Want to go see the Pirates game? It’s going to be a good one!”
“Are you working this week?” “Just Monday and Wednesday.”
“Want to go out Thursday night?” “Can’t, studying.”
“Let’s stop at Hollister.”
“What’s good on TV tonight?” “A couple things.”
Boy: “Let me get that.” *Opens car door.*
“Let’s just drive around for a while.”
Categories: Daily
June 2nd, 2008 at 1:01 pm
My boyfriend and I’s “thing” used to be driving around North Park as it got dark and just talking. And being.
Now, he still offers to, but I won’t let him because I feel bad about the money he’d waste.
Sucks.
June 2nd, 2008 at 1:13 pm
“I really want to stop waiting tables and have a predictable stream of income, like a regular job.”
Wrong. So very wrong.
June 2nd, 2008 at 1:27 pm
Most confusing entry ever. Is this all inside jokes or something?
June 2nd, 2008 at 1:28 pm
Lara - I used to do that exact thing with my friend Brian during our senior year of, and after graduating, high school.
Four years ago.
Jeeze.
so@24 - lol. Oh, no. Title - “Those days are gone.” Meaning, things that don’t happen anymore. I’ll clarify. Thanks.
June 2nd, 2008 at 1:38 pm
I’m so confused on the car door thing. So girls DO want the car door opened? I’ve done it and then gotten yelled at for acting like the girl was helpless. There needs to be a standard practice that girls follow for these things.
June 2nd, 2008 at 1:49 pm
Narm - Hm, good point. I guess it depends on the girl, and the stage of the relationship. I might think it was a little too gimmicky on the first date, but if a boyfriend of 3 years did it a few times, I think it’s a nice gesture.
And wow, that’s completely backwards. Gurlz are weurd.
June 2nd, 2008 at 2:37 pm
OMG, SO true. Especially the driving around one.
Damn you, $4 gas!
June 2nd, 2008 at 2:43 pm
There was a time when the Pirates had good games?
June 2nd, 2008 at 2:53 pm
I’m not sure exactly what my wife would do if I opened her car door for her. She’d be suspicious, that’s for sure.
Not that I don’t hold doors open for girls, Jebus knows that’s not the case. Opening the car door just seems to be stepping over the line into some weird overly chivalrous dimension.
June 2nd, 2008 at 3:37 pm
the door thing? like i said on twitter… it’s nice on special occasions. i’ve been with my boyfriend for four years and i think if he did it all the time, it would be cheesy. but when i’m all dressed up and wearing heels, hair fixed… you know. it’s nice, adds to the whole effect of the night. :o)
i want to be young again with no responsibilities so i can hop in a car and take a road trip, not work 50 hours a week, go to a ballgame and shop at teenybopper stores. really.
xoxox
June 2nd, 2008 at 3:51 pm
Relationships are built on greater rocks than the gestures of opening doors.
When you’re in a good one, you don’t even think about stuff like that.
June 2nd, 2008 at 3:59 pm
Jennie - Yeah, but, there is a time before the rocks form, and while some girls don’t notice (or are annoyed by it), others really appreciate the gesture.
I wouldn’t be offended either way, but some girls might be, and that’s why some guys aren’t sure.
June 2nd, 2008 at 4:05 pm
Agreed. Of course it’s not the backbone of a relationship, but if my girlfriend appreciates it, then of course I’m going to go out of my way to do it for her, and that leads to something greater.
Likewise, if I find out a girl I’m beginning to date is offended by it after doing it, that’s going to put a damper on the evening, and maybe the relationship. There might not be any rocks yet, but until that time, how will I know what to do unless I ask? And especially during the first few dates, the little things really do matter.
June 2nd, 2008 at 4:48 pm
P.S. With the billions of responses you got on twitter, I hope you’re planning on doing a blog entry on this, for the well-being of all men everywhere.
June 2nd, 2008 at 6:59 pm
Oh dang, low rise jeans. I fear I am creeping towards mom jean height, but I hate showing midriff.
And I see all these little freshmen girls coming onto Pitt’s campus for their orientation, and I’m all, “put that away!”
I think I’m about 5 inches from grabbing a rake and shouting ‘YOU KIDS! GET OFF MY LAWN!’
June 3rd, 2008 at 9:25 am
“Where are you going for spring break?”
Oh, how I miss answering that question.
June 3rd, 2008 at 11:18 am
The saddest one is the last one, but not because of the $4 gas. It implies losing that time when all you wanted to do with your BF/GF/S.O. was hang out together, or better yet, make out in the car and steam up those windows! Ya know, back when you had to sneak around and lived with your parents, before the time you could just say, “Let’s go in the house and f*ck.”
June 3rd, 2008 at 2:38 pm
whatever that is in the picture? it is gorgeous
June 3rd, 2008 at 10:35 pm
Chivalry went the way of the spotted owl the day I bought a car with a remote unlocker…
On the other hand, I have a friend who puts his potential GFs through “the asshole test.” This involves opening the car door for a girl, and then walking slowly to the driver’s side. If she hasn’t bothered to reach over and unlock his door by the time he gets there, she doesn’t get a second date — not because he expects her to dote on him, but, as he says, if she can’t even be nice enough to return a favor, it’s all downhill from there.
I should point out that my friend is not me. After all, I have a remote unlocker…
June 4th, 2008 at 12:48 pm
It was fun to see all the different opinions. Funny how it turned into a debate about car doors!